To set the stage: Yesterday morning, Wes and I were getting ready to take the kids shopping down in Bellingham, WA. The Lord has blessed us with an extra bit this month, and the kids and Wes needed some things, so after Andrew and Beth were finished with school, we were planning to head out. I needed to know what Wes wanted to do about lunch and supper, since we'd be leaving right around lunch time and we weren't sure when we'd get back home. I asked him if he wanted me to fix our main meal of the day before we left (which we've been doing recently), and he said no; we'd take some snacks with us. So I was planning what I'd do before we left so supper would be quicker when we got home. He casually said, "I thought we might stop at Red Robin (a restaurant) on the way home," to which I immediately responded, "OK!" I was pretty enthusiastic about it, too, so much so that Wes, with a twinkle in his eye, responded, "I hate to disappoint you like that!" LOL I admit, I was pretty happy to be going out to eat and not having to produce a late supper! And my delight was evident to him in my words and my body language.
The thing that hit me so square in the heart was how differently I knew I would have reacted if he had told me to fix something for us to eat when we got home. I would have done it willingly (I was already planning it), but I would have just merely complied with what he asked. But when the plans suited me and delighted me, I was very enthusiastic about them. The Lord brought to my mind how much it would please my husband if I responded that enthusiastically to everything he suggested, whether I really wanted to do it or not. For example, I hate making phone calls, especially to people I don't know very well. If you knew me in real life, that would shock you, but I really do dread making phone calls. Sometimes Wes asks me to call a lady who has visited our church, or the parent of a Patch Club child, and my immediate reaction is to sigh and drag off to the phone to make that call. I do it - I obey him - but he sure does know how much I hate to do it! Wouldn't it please him so much if I cheerfully rushed off to make those calls? Actually, it would probably hurt him, becase he'd have a heart attack from the shock of it! So I've seen my fault in this area of cheerfully pleasing my husband, and with the Holy Spirit's help, I plan to do better from now on. I just hope Wes doesn't read this! LOL
"Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord . . . and the wife see that she reverence her husband." ~~ Ephesians 5:22,33