This week's Completing Him Challenge over at Women Living Well is to make our husband's priorities for us our priorities:
Make a list of 5 things you currently do and ask your husband to prioritize them for you of what is important to him. For example - a clean home, home cooked dinner, coupon clipping, service at church, having friends over for dinner, watching/doing sports with him, etc.When I asked Wes for his priorities for me, he went blank. I asked him to just tell me what were the most important things to him for me to do each day. He was still blank! Then he said, "Honey, we just live. We do what needs to be done each day, and we give and take together . . . we just live." I was amazed as I realized that that statement sums up our marriage! We each strive to be "submitting yourselves one to another" as it says in Ephesians 5:21. After 25 years of marriage, I can say that my husband has always done his best to make me happy, and we have a very balanced relationship - we each submit to the other in so many ways!
Having said that, though, I have been thinking of the things I know that he likes for me to do each day. He is not a man who has to have the house spotless every day, with meals on the table at specific times and the laundry hamper empty and freshly starched shirts hanging in perfect order in the closet. He does like for the house to be reasonably clean and picked up. He likes hearty meals - sandwiches are fine occasionally, though - served at around the same time each day. He likes to open his underwear drawer and find clean underwear there (not still in the basket unfolded), and when he needs an ironed shirt, he'd prefer it be ironed before he starts getting dressed. He likes for the bed to be made and cleared off when he's ready to go to bed, and he likes me to be in it when he goes to bed! He likes for me to snuggle up with him as we go to sleep. He likes to be on time when we have somewhere to go, so on Sunday mornings I try to be ready and waiting for him when he's ready to leave for church. He likes for me to smile. He likes lots of hugs and kisses in the privacy of our home, but he's not crazy about making a display of ourselves in public, most of the time. Every now and then he'll pull off a kiss in front of our church family, which they love! LOL So, although he doesn't make demands of me or try to set my priorities for me, I know what pleases him and I try to make those things my priorities.
I'm not discounting Courtney's instruction to find out my husband's top 5 priorities for me. I am saying, though, that for my husband, this week's challenge was not a priority for him! He's pleased with how we operate. Our son would say, "That's just how we roll!" ;) You might ask your husband the same question and he'd have lots to say about it. If so, listen to him! But if he is content with how things are, and you are doing your best to please him, then be happy with that and keep doing whatever you're doing!