Saturday, April 29, 2006
Aren't you glad that God knows who will go perfectly with who, and he brings them together? Wes and I are so opposite each other that you'd think we would drive each other crazy. Well, sometimes we do. But that's beside the point. We make up and everything's good again. Most of the time, we balance each other out. Like last night.
We dropped the kids off at Gym Night with Greater Vancouver Baptist Church, then headed across town a bit to pick up something I had asked for on Freecycle. Now, when Wes is going somewhere unfamiliar, he looks it up on Mapquest, maps his route, notices cross streets, side streets, nearest intersections, and prints out the little map with driving directions. He is like most men and hates to get lost. He even hates missing a street and having to turn around and go back one block. I, on the other hand, look at the map, get a general idea of where the place is, make a note of the places where we need to turn, and away I go, usually without a map, cell phone, or telephone number to call in case I can't find it. A 30-minute drive across town takes Wes 20 minutes; it takes me an hour, if I find the place right away. But I enjoy the scenery, and I've found some really neat places when I've gotten lost.
But back to last night. On the way to the Freecyle find, he asked several questions such as how far is it to the turn - I don't know. What major intersection is it near - well, I know you don't go past Kingsway. I think. What is the street before the one we turn on - I don't know. Tension is rising. To make matters worse, there is road construction. He tells me to watch streets and he'll watch construction. I did, and we went straight to the apartment with no incident. I always pull through . . . well, most of the time, anyway.
Then we go to a park. It's one we like, and we've always gone in a certain part of it, the first area coming from where we live. Last Monday, when I was out rambling around with my quilt tops, I walked the sea wall and came to that park from the opposite direction, and then later that day I saw another entrance to that park from the street and assumed that was the same place I'd walked to earlier. So I told Wes that we could go a little farther and just walk around a little corner and be on the sea wall. Well. It was a little farther down than I thought. We walked and walked and finally came to the sea wall and began our walk over to our favorite coffee shop. Wes made the comment, as I was apologizing yet again for not knowing exactly where to turn in and that I had once again underestimated the distance from point A to point B, that I could turn a 30-minute drive into a 3-hour trip. Ah, yes, but I enjoy that trip!
I'm going somewhere with this. I told you I enjoy the trip! LOL I was only partly joking when I told him that God had given us to each other because we need each other. I take my time and usually don't get too bent out of shape if I miss a turn or get totally lost and have to start over. I'm a sightseer; I like new places. I take the time to smell the roses; he sees thorn bushes that happen to have flowers on them. Wes goes from point A to point B in the shortest amount of time and distance possible. Turn not to the right hand nor to the left is his motto. I'm Tigger to his Eeyore (you don't know just how well that describes us - he is Eeyore!) So my theory is that God put us together so that Wes would slow down and see the roses in life . . . and I would get where I need to go . . . on time.
Most couples we know are like that. He's a talker and she's quiet. He's a homebody and she likes to get out. He prefers quiet and she's got the radio on all the time. He's organized and she's chaotic. Is it that way with you and your husband? I really love to get to know people and see how God paired up opposites so that one's weakness is the other's strength. Ecclesiastes 4:9,10 says, "Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow . . ." We've found that so true in our marriage; how about you?