I've learned to let go of any entitlement mentality. If other people don't have to struggle with their weight and I do, so what? Other people struggle with other issues that I don't have to. My job calls for handling a lot of food even though I can't eat a lot myself right now. A bank teller has to handle money all day and not keep any even if she's broke.
That last sentence made sense. You see, ever since I was diagnosed with diabetes, the thought has been in the back of my mind that I shouldn't have to fix nice treats for my family. The reasons have been (1) I'm not supposed to eat it, and if it's not good for me, it's not good for them; and the one I used more often, (2) If I make it, I'm eating it. Talk about entitlement mentality! I felt entitled to eat a piece of cake if I made it. Or if we were at someone's home, I felt entitled to eat dessert because she had gone to the trouble of making it and I didn't want to offend by not eating any. Or if everyone else is having some dessert, then I should too. It's not fair that I can't have any.
Ok. So let's look at this bank teller analogy. She handles that money all day. There's plenty of it there. And she needs money. It would be nice to have some new clothes. Other people have plenty of money; why can't she have it too? I think we can see where this is going. It's still not right for her to take it, no matter how much of it she handles or what nice things she could have with it. So it is with eating. Just because the food is there and everyone else is having some does not mean I can have it too. It doesn't even mean I'm entitled to it. Just because I have to handle it to prepare it for my family doesn't mean I should eat it.
Our pastor taught us that we can't always do what others do. Other good Christians might be able to watch a certain TV show without seeming to be bothered by it, but I cannot. I've made a commitment to keep certain things out of my life, and watching that TV show would violate that commitment. I believe I can apply this to food, too. Other people can eat desserts; I cannot. Other people can eat as much as they want, with no adverse effects; I cannot. That's just the way life is. How many times have we told our children, "Life's not fair!" when they've complained that it's not fair that So-and-So got something when they didn't? I think it's time I grow up!